In The Name Of Research

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I’m Back! Did you miss me? I know, it may seem that I have ben slacking. However I have spent the last 6 weeks doing research. Research on products and things I think are just GREAT! (Did I sound like Oprah there?) I have been traveling, and busy with all things summer. But, I did make a point of trying new products left and right so I could pass along to you dear reader, some good stuff to spend your hard earned money on.

1.Suncscreen. I am a big advocate since I also spent part of my summer having stuff cut off my face at the dermatologist. Damn you 1980’s ban De Soleil tan. I found two that worked well here in the Northeast, but also on a trip to the Caribbean that I took all in the name of research!  And trying to meet Kenny Chesney, which I did, and he wasn’t even nice. Never mind…..

For the face – LA ROACHE -POSAY ANTHELION 60. This stuff was great. I got several hours out of it and no burn. It’s water resistant and has something called cell-ox shield. No clue what that is, but it did the trick even when I was super sweaty from the heat. You can buy it at CVS. Now before you lose your mind over the $29.99 price tag, know that it’s super light and didn’t make me break out.88314001299

For the body – ANDRE LARENT ULTRA SPORT SUNSCREEN. This stuff has 10% zinc oxide in it which means it goes on pretty white and you really have to rub it in. I was in and out of the water non-stop and this stuff was amazing. Again, even as I was sweating, (ask my friends, I’m always sweating), this stuff stayed on and I only needed to reapply once. I got this on AMAZON for $24.95.81aevcjdp3l-_sx522_

Yes I spent $50 bucks on sunscreen. But I came a way with a little summer glow and no sun damage. Given what the skin spa is charging me for lasers, peels, and other zapping tools I figure its worth it in the long run.

2. Number 2 is an old fashioned body oil. In my mind there is nothing worse than getting out of the shower on a hot sticky day, drying off, and starting to slather lotion on. Just thinking about that makes me sweaty ( see, sweaty girl over here). I bought some fancy bath oil from one of the hotel shops, used it in the shower after washing, and rinsed. I got out of the shower patted myself dry and viola! I was moisturized sans sweat! For me this is a fucking miracle. The bottle I bought from the hotel was crazy expensive. I was day drinking and shopping, bad idea. However I thought back to an oldie but goodie! NEUTROGENA BODY OIL!  You can get it at amazon or CVS or wherever. I tried it  or $12.95 and am a soft, smooth, and non sweaty gal!unknown

3. Number 3 is the world’s best dry shampoo. I for one love dry shampoo. I can milk a blow out for 2 days and  that means two less sweaty days for me. Ladies I have discovered the holy grail of dry shampoo. I can go into a 4th day without a wash and blow dry and still have good hair. LIVING PROOF PERFECT HAIR DAY DRY SHAMPOO is everything. I got it at ULTA for $22. Anywhere that carries the Living Proof line will have it. But call ahead, they can’t keep it in stock! I don’t know about you but I’ll pay $22 bucks for something that lets me avoid a sweaty blow dry session. unknown

4. My 4th item to share is a kind of skin ‘cream”. Now let me say that my summer find is not your usual skin cream. EGYPTIAN MAGIC is  more of a balm but you can use it for anything. I keep the tub next to the bed and put it on my lips at night. You can use to soften cuctcles. That zit you just HAD to try and pop? Use it to soothe the skin over night and come morning the wound you created magically shrunk. You can use it on dry heels, elbows and knees. The tub is big and will last you till 2035. You only need a tiny bit at a time. Back to Amazon you go, and this one is a bargain at $29.95 since I promise you it will last FOREVERRRRR

5. My 5th and final summer product must have is, MASCARA MELT OFF by Too Faced cosmetics. Why no one ever did this before I will never know. It looks like a mascara. but it’s an oil based product that breaks down even waterproof mascara! You swipe it on let it sit while you get rid of the rest of your make up and simply wipe off. No more tugging, pulling, rubbing, or otherwise oily messy removal. As I am a mascara whore, this is my holy grail. On your next trip to Sephora pick up a tube of this stuff for $17.00. Well worth it!s1809201-main-lhero

So there you go, all my hard work this summer researching, just for you. I know, not my cheapest reccs ever, but some of my best. I always say its worth investing a little extra in something that works. Besides, aren’t you worth it?


How Many F**ks….

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Yes I said it. Right there in the title. Now that I’m ‘middle aged’ or ’40 plus’, or whatever you want to call me there are a few (many) things I no longer give a shit about. Let me tell you it’s so liberating. Clearly one of them is my potty mouth. Yes, I swear like a truck driver and I don’t care if you don’t like it. I made a list of the top 5 things I no longer care about. Do you agree?

  1. Going out on Friday and Saturday night is no longer an issue. There was a time when I worried I was, wasting the best years of my life, or missing out somehow on all this fun stuff.  Now that I’m older, pajamas and a book, or binge watching TV sound perfect to me on Saturday night.  Lemme just tell you that Netflix and Chill means something VERY different to me than the millennial crowd. 980x
  2. Trends. Might seem strange coming from a style blogger. But I don’t really care that platform sneakers are back thanks to Kendall Jenner. I’m not wearing them. I am old and I would look stupid. Are there some trends I like? Absolutely. Will I adopt some. You bet. But the thing is, I don’t care if I don’t. See? See how that works?
  3. The fact that I am the only person on the planet that doesn’t watch Game of Thrones, or The walking Dead, or The Bachelorette. There was a time where every Friday night was devoted to Dallas and Dynasty. I could chat at the water cooler with the best of them come Monday morning regarding Joan collins and Lynda Evans and their shoulder pads. Now? Don’t care. next topic…b539eb9b-44b5-445a-8aae-63858232e48d
  4. Spending time with people I don’t like. I gotta be honest, this albatross off my neck is such a relief. Life is too short to make small talk with someone i don’t ike and whom I’m pretty sure doesn’t like me. Let’s just agree to move along shall we?
  5. My music. You better believe that I have my hair bands playing at a ridiculous decibel as I drive through town. I am Vouging in my car to Madonna like no one’s watching. Guess what? That’s because no one is watching. And if they are… you know you want my moves.giphy

Damn there are so many other things i no longer give a shit about! Put comfort before style. Walking around without make up, eh who cares?! What about you? What’s on your list?




Time to Grow Up

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It’s time. It is time to step up to the plate and acknowledge your skin care and beauty routine realities. Sure, I love to fall down the rabbit hole online and find a million amazing products, miracles of makeup, and regimens that only involve “15 easy steps”. Let’s get real, we are 40 plus and we need to do a few simple things to maintain our fabulousness as we navigate this whole grown up thing.

  1. Wash your face. Take your makeup off. Get into a cleansing routine and stick with it. Products are great but, it you don’t start with the basics, it’s all a waste of time and money. A simple cleansing routine is the foundation of any anti-aging, dark spot fading, wrinkle reducing plan.getty_rf_photo_of_woman_with_cleanser_on_face
  2. Find the perfect shade of lipstick. Everyone needs to put on a little lipstick now and again. No, not your go to Burt’s Bees colored gloss that lives at the bottom of your purse. A real, grown up lipstick. Go to a make up counter, ask a girl behind the counter to help you. Find it and buy it. Put it in your makeup stash and be ready to use it.elizabeth-taylor-quote-shelikesflowers-e0Swhp-quote
  3. Learn how to give yourself a good blow out. I am all for the air dry, and the quasi- blow out when you are busy. But, take some time at your next appointment and LEARN. Ask questions, practice. Be able to make you hair fabulous if you need to.
  4. Find a good facialist and stay true to her. Commit to extra skin care beyond your daily routine at least 4 times per year. I’m not saying you need expensive lasers, botox and fillers if you aren’t interested. Find someone who can deep clean your skin and help you navigate as it changes. It’s good for the skin and good for the psyche.mainskincare_600x450_1389259284_540x540
  5. Do something about your brows. Pluck them, wax them, thread them, or microblade them. Do them yourself, or have someone do them for you. But neaten that shit up please. Those fuzzy caterpillars above your eyes frame your whole face. And remember it’s not 1996 so pencil thin brows are a no.

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    Sorry Pam….Just NO.

  6. Back to the hair. Get it cut and styled regularly. If you are a high maintenance hairstyle girl, this goes double for you.  Getting a trim every 6-8 weeks will keep your hair healthy and won’t break the bank.ผมแห้ง-vs-หน้าใส-เกี่ยวกันยังไง-มาดู
  7. Sunscreen, For the love of God use sunscreen, Every. Single. Day. Choose products that have it already in there. That “Ban De Soliel Tan” is not the look you should be going for. I know I loved it too, but those days are over. Just ask your dermatologist.6a00d83451ccbc69e201a3fcc92445970b
  8. Stick to what works. Sure it’s ok to look for a new lipstick or eye liner. But know your skin, and what looks best. When you find it stick with it. You know when you look good and when you don’t. Experiment for fun, and glam up for special occasions. But always fall back on the basics.

We are grown ass women and the best part of that is we know what works and what doesn’t. We know what we like and don’t like.  Every new fad isn’t necessarily for us, it’s for the young girls who don’t have a clue. God bless them and their hairless nipples.



Packing Overload.

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ITS SUMMERTIME! It’s time for road trips, and carefree weekend getaways! Beach vacations and pool destinations! Look at you all slammed up in heels and a kaftan! Ok, so maybe it’s really time to pack up the kids, wipe slobber off with you’re clothing, wash sticky ice-cream off your hands with spit, and you’re dressed in shorts that are riding up in the middle and a tee from 1975…… Most people do some traveling during the summer. And that means packing. Raise your hand if you are an ‘over-packer’. MEEE! Although, I’m getting better. Airlines are charging for bags, the car isn’t big enough for the kids shit and yours. Minimalist packing is a great idea. Try these items on for size.

1. A simple basic clutch bag. You can slip this into your bigger carry on bag that has all your important essentials in it, and you can grab and go with no fuss when you head out for  drinks or dinner. And BTW – please do not bring your entire wallet away with you. I promise that receipt from Bed Bath and Beyond you have stuffed in there in case you want to return the sheets you bought, will not be needed on this trip. #swearChic-Clutch

2. A well fitted white tee. A good white tee that’s not stained or sloppy looking can be worn to run around all day with shorts and flip flops. And then, can easily be paired with a maxi skirt and sandals for heading out after a day at the beach.Madewell

3.Oversized jean jacket. This is an indispensable item.  If you don’t own one, get one. You won’t regret it. You can throw it on over ANYTHING. It will go with daytime clothes and anything you put together for nighttime wear. Now please, do not go into your closet and dig out the cropped fitted one you have been holding onto since the summer of 89′. Get a medium wash, boxy fit, it will last forever.Oversize-Jean-Jacket

4.Wedges. No need for stilettos on the go. A pair of espadrille style wedges, or any wedge heel, with take you from day to night with no problem. Dress them up or down and are soooooo easy to walk in. Lord knows the place you decide to go to eat dinner is probably too close to drive to, but not really walkable in heels without injury. Plus you just know it’s gonna be some kind of charming cobblestone street which is a recipe for Louboutin disaster.Easy-Wedges

5.That Maxi dress I mentioned? Find a soft breezy fabric that won’t wrinkle. Ball it up and wear it to the beach as a cover up, or out for cocktails. Simply change up your shoes and accessories. Easy peasy.Danielle-Bux

6. A long sleeved light cotton Tee. You can throw this on if it gets chilly at night, or if the AC is cranked up. Go with a solid color so it will match whatever you have on the bottom.3551302_fpx.tif

7. A classic white button down or denim chambray shirt. Can go with shorts, cropped pants, sneakers, or sandals. You can use it to cover up at the pool or beach, and is always in style. Tie it at the waist if you are feeling frumpalicious.61snk1XhhoL._UY500_

8. A  pair of sandals. Something casual yet functional and streamlined. This isn’t the time for your funky shoes. Leave those at home. I know, you imagined yourself walking along in the new shoes you had to have. You won’t be sauntering. You will be running, sweating and chasing little people. Make it easy on yourself.Travel-Ready-Sandals

9. A linen scarf. Wanna know what makes ‘those’ women look effortlessly stylish? A light weight neutral color scarf. Throw it on with that white tee and a pair of crops or skinnies and viola. You too can look like a french gal on the riviera!Light-Scarf

10. Last but not least a pair of skinny pants or jeans. You favorite, most comfortable pair will take you from day to night. Wear them with sandals and a tee durning the day for sightseeing. Throw your wedges and a scarf with big earrings for night. BAM. you are now that woman. #StylishBitchYour-Favorite-Skinny-Jeans

Let’s be honest, vacation is not the time to stress over what you are wearing. I promise you Martha from whereeverville isn’t wondering why you don’t have on stilettos, and mocking your simple flats. She’s sweating and her feet hurt because she didn’t read my blog and packed all the wrong things! Happy Travels!



What’s Old Is New Again

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So everything 90’s is new again. Not sure how I feel about this. The 90’s had some really bad fashion trends. Now I rocked that Janet Jackson, metal hardware baseball hat like no one’s business, let’s be clear. But, it was retired to the fashion graveyard along with my MC Hammer pants. Let’s take a look at todays version of 90’s trends and discuss……

CROP TOPS – Thank you Miss Kelly Kapowski. She and Jessie Spanno cropped their way through their days at The Max eating burgers and fighting over Zack and Slater. Today’s crop looks a bit different. It’s a bit loser, it’s a bit less exaggerated, and more sophisticated. With a high waisted pencil skirt, jeans or a skinny pant, it looks so pretty! If you feel good about your middle, then this is a great look.Parisian-Chic-Street-Style-Dress-Like-A-French-Woman-27

LOGO TEES – “Relax don’t do it”…Yes, I just quoted Frankie Goes to Hollywood. Yes, I had one of these tee shirts, and no I didn’t really know what it meant back then. It was quite the statement I made with my acid washed self. Nowadays a graphic tee is less about a statement, and more about an overall look. Mixed with a skirt, or heels, or with with boyfriend jeans, it’s edgy but soft at the same time. I love the idea of a fancy designer logo tee with boyfriend jeans and black lace up pumps or flats10575884_hi

OVERALLS – Truth be told, if you are over 30, this is tough to pull off. It really requires a crop top or bandeau underneath. Something to offset the bagginess of them. Like TLC and their look form way back – holy baggy. They can’t chase waterfalls in those without drowning. And for Vouge’s sake please don’t pull the whole bib up. 1 hook down or both hooks down please. Otherwise you still might look sorta, well, blobby. Who wants to look blobby? I just made up a word. I like it, I’m using it.8e037fbd31fe233b8fe648e5e8854aaf

FLORAL SLIP DRESSES – This one I’m happy about. Its fun, flirty, feminine, and very flattering to all body types. Back in the day, think 90210 – Donna, Brenda and Kelly loved them! Well, let’s just thank the TV gods Donna Martin graduated shall we, because today’s slip dresses are sophisticated and more structured, perfect for the office or for a brunch. Dress it up with pumps, dress it down with wedges or sandals. Boho babe? Ankle booties in a light color are perfect.floral-dress-9-e1437590666280

CHOKERS and BOMBER JACKETS. God help us but T-Swizzle and Kylie Jenner are bringing back Britney spears circa 1997. Chokers are everywhere. I’m gonna say if you are over 40 don’t do it. We aren’t exactly taught in that area, i don’t care how thin you are. Unless it has diamonds, skip this one. And bomber jackets, well they can be cute paired with jeans and a tee, but be careful, you don’t want to be dressed like your daughter.


LITTLE WHITE SNEAKERS – this was initially a fashion girl in the streets trend, and at first reminded me of my days of scrunchy socks. But a pair of converse Chuck Taylors, Adidas Stan Smiths, can be very cute with jeans, denim shorts, or even a simple summer dress. 90cea87eb34906da0ae909edfc0bb0ba

There has been some resurfacing of acid washed, high waisted short shorts, cute if you have a long lean adolescent figure. If you are 35+ you will look like you dug them out of your closet, from way in the back, where the taffeta lives. What’s old is new again, yes, but remember, there is a new modern edge to it. Focus on fit, and flatter your body with today’s trends. If it doesn’t make you feel good when you put it on, then pass it by. Trends come and go, but you and your beautiful self are forever.


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